“Men’s indifference to learning about contraception and to taking any responsibility for it is a theme that emerges from many reports of projects that have attempted, and failed, to reach and educate men. One of the most successful programs of contraception education for men, a Planned Parenthood project in Chicago, abandoned its attempts to reach men over the age of twenty-five when it was found that these men simply would not participate, even when offered beer, sandwiches, free condoms—and “stag” movies. Instead, the project targeted a younger group, and as part of its research the project conducted a survey of over a thousand men aged fifteen to nineteen:
• These young men were asked whether they agreed with the statement “It’s okay to tell a girl you love her so that you can have sex with her.” Seven out of ten agreed that it’s okay.
• They were asked whether they agreed with the statement “A guy should use birth control whenever possible.” Eight out of ten disagreed and said a guy should not.
• And when asked, “If I got a girl pregnant, I would want her to have an abortion,” nearly nine out of ten said no, they would not want her to have an abortion. These teenage men agreed: Deception to obtain coital access is okay; male irresponsibility in contraception is okay; but abortion is not okay—“because it’s wrong.”
Largely because of attitudes such as these, one million teenage women—one tenth of all teenage women—become pregnant each year, and two thirds of their pregnancies are not wanted.”
—John Stoltenberg, Refusing to be a Man
This is why I say: pro-choice is not just about abortion. With choice comes responsibility, and frankly, if you’re not gonna be responsible for your own shit then I have the choice to send your ass out the door. People who are not responsible enough to use protection and/or consider their partners’ well-being are anti-choice in my book. Being reproductively and sexually coercive violates my bodily autonomy.
I have decided to live another day.
— Brandon Lacy Campos, from his remarks at the Civil Liberties and Public Policy Conference. It’s all worth reading—he goes on to urge organizers and activists to remember that HIV status should not be a side note in such discussions—but I really appreciate this opener.
— Really nothing more need be said. Just laughter.
“TRUE MEN” by Brian Shumway
Gender can be a perplexing thing. Despite being flexible and malleable, it defines and confines who we are and how we express ourselves, especially through behavior and dress. Men in particular are bound by the dictates of gender. To be a ‘real man,’ being manly and masculine (or at the very least not outwardly effeminate) are paramount. Expression of one’s manhood, especially in public, must remain within a narrow range of acceptable social norms. Little boys are conditioned as such from birth, almost as a universal absolute. But this ignores the full story of male identity. There is a large spectrum of male experience that is deemed off limits by popular society. The men in this portrait series fall outside traditional notions of manliness and masculinity. They possess an effeminate manner, dress, or look, a ‘girlishness’ that is as much a part of being male as weightlifting and football. They boldly embrace expressions of male identity which flaunt the confines of conventional conceptions of manhood and what it means to be a man.
Young Adulthood¹ |yə ng ˈadˌəlthoŏd|
1.The stage after teenager and before adult
2. Typically the age at which western middle to upper class humans enter post secondary educational institutions, in order to prepare for entry into the “daily grind”
3. The age at which you realize that, after spending your teen years pining after Duckie, Steff was way hotter in his linen suit the whole time.
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Kill the cop in your head.