A Zed & Two Noughts (Peter Greenaway, 1985)
i love this quotation, but i hate that most people quote it without the entire context, leaving the last, very important part out. she was speaking specifically about Black women, but people truncate the quotation to fit their agendas—not realizing that without the ending, they are reinforcing all of the reasons she wrote this in the first place.
Wow: This quote I posted the other day now has 1100+ notes. I think the gendering of anxiety is really hitting home with a lot of people.
When you bump into him it’s the first time you’ve seen him in ten years. He looks the same.
“You look even better,” he says.
You do it at his place. He isn’t married, just like back then. He’s barely employed, just like back then. He’s still good in bed, just like back then. You tell him he hasn’t changed at all.
“I cry more now,” he says. “Sometimes for days at a stretch. Normal I suppose.”
You cry less.
“I also have more trouble going into buildings sometimes now,” he says. “Occasionally I’ll just start walking toward a building entrance and I’ll have to turn around and run. Part of aging I guess.”
That hasn’t happened to you yet.
“I also find myself following men who look well put together to see how they live and find out what they figured out. Is that something that just happens after 35?”
Yeah you don’t really do that at all.
“Anyway want to meet my squirrels?” he asks.
You tell him you have to head home.
“To your squirrels?” he asks, a little uneasy.
You don’t have any squirrels but just to calm him down you say, “Yes. They’re waiting for their nuts.”
He breathes a sigh of relief. He gave you a taste of your past, and you gave him the false hope that his present isn’t as off-course as he suspects it might be.
Happy He Cries More Now Day!
Abusers are really good at finding people who have already been groomed to view abuse as ‘normal’. So please don’t wonder how someone could have been abused more than once and say shit like abuse survivors should know better.
It’s not unheard of for survivors to go from abusive relationship to abusive relationship. Abuse has been so normalized for so many people that there is this deep rooted suspicion that all relationships are abusive. That everyone is faking it just like you’re faking it. That no one actually has non-toxic relationships. And that’s a type of coping mechanism right there, isn’t it?
Then there’s also the fact that survivors have complicated feelings towards their abusers. Sometimes we love our abusers. Sometimes we are dependent on our abusers and feel indebted. Sometimes we know it is abuse but we don’t know if anyone will take our side and help us. People would rather turn away then help us. Sometimes people would rather help cover up the abuse because it’s less messy.
Sometimes these messy feelings keep us from realizing we’re being abused, even if we know the cycle of abuse, even if we’ve tried to help friends in messy relationships. It can’t be abuse, we’re in love. It can’t be abuse, he takes care of us. It can’t be abuse because I can’t see myself as someone being abused. Etc, etc, etc.
i mean, just as a way to rethink and recenter the “debate” around abortion
relevant and important
A prof told me the other day that the title is what her partner thinks, that she is sure that feminism is simply an idea planted by the system to keep actual change from occuring. My prof expanded on it a bit, and I sat down and thought about it too, so heres a mix of our…
Yes but let’s keep in mind these criticisms of feminism have long been theorized by WOC since the 18th century with little regard from mainstream feminists …….. that there are COUNTLESS woc who have devoted their lives to making feminism a more inclusive space. In fact, here’s a crash course explaining how feminist theory in the past has dealt with these issues:
—-FEMINIST THEORY CRASH COURSE—-
Feminism moves in between these branches (not a mutually exclusive list, just listed most prominently recognized theorists by each)in order to directly oppose mainstream feminist discourses loaded with eurocentrism, phallocentrism, orientalism, imperialism, racialized colonialism, capitalism (which goes hand in hand with feminist movements as commodification of a so called revolutionary struggle!), white supremacy, ethocentrism, transphobia, ableism and much much more:
1. post colonial theory-undoes the victimization discourse of western feminists/their metonymic blurring of different forms of oppression through an essentialist explanation
2. global feminism/”third world feminism”- disrupts idea that feminism is an inherently “western” ideology
3. Women of color feminism-emerged to counter cultural hegemony of white western feminism
- black feminism-Audre Lorde, Combahee River Collective
- Afrocentric feminism-Patricia McFadden
- Chicana feminism-Anzuldua
- womanism (check out Alice Walker and Layli Phillips to find out more why this isn’t a subcolumn or branch of feminism completely)
4. critical race theory-comes from radical POC law professors who acknowledge feminism’s lack of tools in making visible the ways racial supremacy is embedded in the law system. Check Kimberle Crenshaw, Barbara Smith, Patricia Hill Collins, Susan Schechter
5. Black nationalist feminism—opposes anti-blackness in feminist movements
- Africana womanism (different from African feminism and womanism)6. Feminist hermeneutics-analyzes religious studies as a source of feminist theory7.Feminist Science studies—disrupts biological determinism. Check out Ruth Hubbard’s “Fact Making and Feminism” as an intro to why science needs to be included in discussions of feminist discipline8. Queer theory-holy shit i can’t even start on the ways its disrupted mainstream feminism but HEY:
Flower crown feminism is in no way a reflection of the deeply rooted radical work Women of color, transnational, zapatista, chicana, african-american, “third world” (global south), indigenous and native, queer, dis*abled and post-colonial feminisms have carved out.
When Ida B. Wells called out the racism of progressive feminist leaders in 1894 IE suffragist Frances Williard of Christian temperance union who publically represented black women voters as a threat to modern society, Wells was not about that “abandoning feminism” life
When Paula Gunn Allen pointed out that white American feminism ripped off gynocentric Iroquois nations, who held their own feminist rebellions as early and before the 1600’s, she wasn’t about that “abandoning feminism” life
When Linda La Rue, the Combahee River Collective, Barbara Smith Claudia Jones, Audre Lorde and counless others called out the heterosexist, classist racist shitfield that was the women’s liberation movement, they weren’t abt that “abandoning feminism” life
When Beverly Guy Sheftall, Rudolph Byrd, and Johnetta B. Cole anthologize unpublished works of queer poc thinkers in I Am Your Sister, Still Brave, Traps,and Gender Talk, they aren’t about accepting white feminism as the dead-end truth.
WE CAN’T DISREGARD THESE CENTURIES OF WORK SUBVERTING DOMINANT PARADIGMS AND CREATING SPACES FOR CHANGE BECAUSE A WAVE OF PASTEL COLORED “GRRRLS” REEMERGE AS THE PRIVILEGED SUBURBAN GRANDDAUGHTERS OF THE SAME RACIST FEMINIST WHO STORMED THE POLITICAL SCENE LOUDER AND WHITER THAN ALL THE REST, FIRST IN THE 1870’s, 1920’s, 1970’s, AND THEN 1990’s
Instead let’s make this a fight to continue the legacy of these radical visionaries
in reclaiming our spaces,
reaffirming our rights to tell our own stories freely, to live in the security of our own bodies, and to rewrite histories of social movements that replicate hierarchy within.
A portrait of my paternal grandmother. In 1949, she was poisoned by a White woman in town because she “sassed” her. I don’t think people realize how White Supremacy has destroyed the lives of close personal family members. Of how it affects us all on a personal, human level, institutional ideas set aside. My father grew up without a mother because of White Supremacy.
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